A few days ago I was talking to Luka about his Adoption or Gotcha Day and our plans for the celebration. It is coming up on the 30th of November. I asked him if he wanted me to go to his class and read our favorite book about adoption, but he said something that worried me, "Mommy, I don't want to read the book about adoption because not all the kids in my class know what adoption means."
I could sense his hesitation and even though I explained to him that the reason we read the book is to celebrate the day, but more importantly to teach his classmates what adoption is all about...just like we did last year with the 6 Kindergarten classes. He said, "Okay, Mom." But that okay mom didn't leave me thinking he was convinced.
We love love this book - I Wished for You: An Adoption Story. It not only talks about adoption, but specifically interracial adoptions and deals with the topic of the birth mother...really an amazing book. But although we love the book...I thought Luka needed a new way to address the topic of adoption to his 1st grade class. You know there are "big" kids now and maybe a book with Bailey the Bear wasn't cool enough.
So off to Pinterest I went in search of some much needed inspiration....I can't believe I never thought of this angle before...some amazing super heroes are adopted!!!!! When I told Luka his face lit up and I knew he couldn't wait to share the news with his friends. "Mom, for real...like how...who adopted them...they were not in their mommy's belly...how did they become super heroes?"
This is the plan, we will read our book...it is our book after all and I rarely get through it without shedding tears and Luka always cuddles up next to me just as Bailey does in the book with his mom. It melts my heart every time. The book is also a great way to talk about many of the issues that surround adoption.
But once we read the book, share our personal adoption story and talk about the first time I held Luka and he peed on me (he loves that). We will end with a POW...super hero style and ask the class if they know who else is adopted....Batman, Superman and Spiderman are...that's who!
We made these little cards to put in the goodie bags we will distribute to the class. The idea is that they take the card home and discuss what they heard in class with their families. The more they talk about adoption and get familiar with it the more "normal" it will become for them.
Luka goes to a HUGE school with not many children of color or adopted for that matter. My hopes is that we educate these kids one at a time and that at least his classmates can become mini ambassadors and if someone at recess says something about Luka's mom being white or about his skin color (which happens more often than what I would like) they will say, "Hey, don't mess with Luka...Did you know Superman was also also adopted! Luka has super powers." Okay, scratch the last part...but you get the idea.
But let's see how it goes. What do you guys think? Good or bad idea...Motherhood is trial and error, no?